It starts with my father, 66 years old, who were very seldom got sick actually. Just suddenly, in August 2018, he could not get pee. And went to IGD Roemani hospital Semarang with my mom. Doctor examined then instruct to do the action right away, to install cateter to get the urine out of the body. Then my father feels much better after it.
Then examination continued. Why the pee path was blocked. It is found that it was blocked by developed prosthate. It was cancer. Doctor said that it is very common case. It can be cured. My aunt and uncle came from Jakarta to support us.
This is me with my niece, when my sister visited our father
The developed prosthate then to be lifted. Next medication was by hormonal therapy. I am not really understand by this, but at that moment, no reference about the cancer stage, or how bad it is.
He was getting weaker and got fever in some times.
Due to there were only my father and my mom in Semarang; my family asked them to move to Jakarta. They will be able to support us better.
Then it was decided to move to Jakarta. I got the train ticket from Purwakarta with my 4 years old daughter. We got off at 10pm, arrived at Semarang at 5am. Then got off with my father and my mom at 6am, to Jakarta.
I still remember that after arrived at Gambir, when we got off from the train, my father is walking in front of us (as usual of him). We were waiting for taxi, since we arrived in the time of Jumatan. And my father is still able to stand waiting.
Then we went to Cempaka Putih.
As I remembered, we just go straight to RSI to get the reference letter, either to RSCM, or Dharmais. Then we continue to go to Cipayung and rest in my uncle's home. We still got room on the second floor. The tomorrow morning, I went home to Purwakarta alone, to get my wife and my son, my daugter was with my mom. I still managed to buy sate maranggi after arrived at Purwakarta, then bought 2 cup of Oiishi tea. I dumped 1 of them because of forgotten then. Then we go to Jakarta again with car. I think it was on saturday.
At monday, we go to Siloam MRCC to get some nuclear scanning or something. Then we were all knows that the cancer had been spreading.
I could not really understand what us going on, I just keep supporting my parents. I also could not help them in financial issue so much. I just keep visit them to Cipayung on the weekend.
Then with many helpful hands from my nephew, my father got registrated in RSCM, the best and the biggest government hospital in Indonesia. It is the last reference hospital of Indonesia. And it means the hospital will never be empty.
After that, my father have to control in 2 - 3 polyclinic in RSCM every week. And it means almost everyday they have to come to hospital. I still feeling grateful for every strength we have as a family at that time. The only obstacle only there were construction of elevated highway of Cikampek. Trip time between Purwakarta and Jakarta would span from 2 to 8 hours. If traffic jam happened, both highway or regular roads, stuck. It could happened in the morning, in the night, in the dawn.
Then my father is getting weaker. My aunt had remake the garage into room that my father can rest, so he does not need to go up and downstairs.
Some series chemotherapy to be undergone. If i am not mistaken, 8 times, every 3 weeks. But then it is only 7 times. The cancer just too strong to be defeated.
It goes worsening then. I just do not want to remember that tough time. I just remember that our family support is very solid. I just only can pray for them, may Allah reply their good deeds in very much barakah.
Then my father passed away in Awal Bros hospital in October 2019, friday noon, 1 pm. I will never know his misery in resist the pain. He still have hope of visit our newly house in Purwakarta. But he could not manage it.
Human are very much be reminded of how we will die for sure, anytime. So we are pushed to always prepare for the dead.
I pray that the hope of my father before he passed away, will not prevent of him visit his eternal home in Jannah.
I think it should be his last hope.
amin
Then my mom still grieving afterwards. But she then managed to leave Cipayung to Semarang. My sister attend for her in Semarang in some month.
-doubt in this moment-
Then there were my niece, who will had her second marriage in Jakarta. My mom was planning to attend it.
Like the last scenario, I and my 5 year old daughter went to Semarang by train, then 1 hour later, back to Purwakarta with my Mom.
Some weeks before this, I had some strange health problem in my stomach. It was just like gastritis or GERD, but with fever. I still manage until i brought my family to Cipayung. I got fever again by the time we arrived at Cipayung. I went rest directly until maghrib. It was saturday.
When my aunt saw my stomach, she directly suggest me go to hospital, emergency, to get examined.
Still feeling unwell, but fever is gone. I drove myself to AwalBros hospital.
Hours after get examined, officially i was being hospitalized. For the first time in my life.
The tomorrow morning, i kept insist that my family just go to the wedding. Do not worry of me. It was sunday. No doctor ot further examination will be done.
And my nephew have me chilled by sending the photo of all of them in one car. I forgot that there are only 1 driver then.
Then I was diagnosed to suffer from peritonitis tuberculosis. I got 6 days in the hospital. One night in Cipayung then I still feeling unwell, and get hospitalized again for the next 8 days.
My wife and kids, and mom still in Cipayung. It was very boring i guess.
The day that finally i was released by the doctor, my mom get hospitalized, 1 floor above me. I then go upstair, and stay for the next 5 days. It was until new year 2020. Big floods everwhere.
Ow, I still could participate in our ITB Ultramarathon.
Then it comes corona virus in March 2020 that locks our down.
Really I still grateful for this sequentially unfortunate events. I can not imagine if that unfortunate events, happened in the same time.
And that is why we just have to be grateful of our current condition. It is very simple task.
